3.25.2010

T-Boy


Have you ever heard of taking your "emotional temperature"? That is what I'm doing to our home this morning. It's not been 48 hours since our nephew, I'll call him T-boy, has moved in. Here's the low down:
  • He's 14
  • He's suspended from school indefinitely
  • He has several legal charges against him
  • He's a danger to his grandmother
  • He's a danger to himself
  • He's smart
  • He's hurting
  • He's starving for acceptance
  • He wants love even more
Since the time T-boy was 1 to 2 years old, my husband has wanted to take him and raise him. He's bought him motorcycles and taught him to ride, he's given him Busch Gardens season passes and taken him there, T-boy has stayed whole weeks with him in the summers, he's taken him to work, to sports events and other recreational activities. All until about 2 1/2 years ago.

The story is tragic.

It's heartbreaking.

I cried in the shower this morning.

I don't know how long he'll be here; 3 weeks or 3 years, but either way, while I have the chance, he'll be loved.

The emotional temperature in our home is "pensive". I feel like I'm mourning the death of a child who is still alive and well.

I'll tell you why tomorrow.

12 comments:

lmt1073 said...

I don't even know your story, but I know stories like this and that's why I sit at my desk this morning, crying, my heart breaking for your nephew.

Shaina said...

What you're doing is so amazing. I know that your background is in counseling and I'm sure this will help you as you begin this difficult journey. Also, please know that as a high school social worker, I specifically deal with this "type" of kid all the time - legal issues, school issues, generalized issues - and if, at any time, you feel like you need to talk it out, I'd love to listen!

Krystyn said...

Oh, I can't even imagine being in your house right now.

I hope the love and support that you show him really helps mold him into the person he has the potential to be.

Erin said...

It so amazing that you are giving this boy a chance to be loved. Im sure this hole thing is going to be though but if anyone can do it I know its you. You are amazing!

Mrs. Newlywed Giggles said...

You are already making it better by doing what you are doing now. I send you lots of hugs and support!

Becky at lifeoutoffocus.com said...

i think this is HUGE of y'all and so nice that you're doing this. i can't wait to hear the rest of the story tomorrow.

Katrina said...

It is so great he has someone willing to take a chance on him. =) I'm praying for you guys! I know it won't be easy, but I am sure it will have a huge impact on him! `

Ms. Salti said...

Sad... I'm interested to hear the rest of the story. Good luck today!

Laura Sue said...

will definitely be praying!

Cole said...

You and your hubby are amazing people. I know you'll make a differenc in T-Boy's life; no matter how long he's with you.

Sara said...

The world needs more people like you and your husband to give second chances to children who need them. I'll be praying for you all.

P.S. Glad you're back.

In this wonderful life... said...

just came across your blog and read this post and the one above. You guys seem like amazing people for taking him in. Praying for you all!